How To Tap Into Your Erotic Energy (No Sex Required)
When was the last time you felt fully alive? Not just in the bedroom, but in the way you move through the world? Last week, I lost myself doodling for hours — my hands streaked with marker ink, my mind quiet and humming with joy. That was the erotic at work.
Most people think of the erotic as purely sexual — something that incites sexual desire. But Audre Lorde, the visionary scholar and activist, redefined it as something far more profound. In her essay Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power, she describes it as:
“A measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings.”
In other words, erotic power isn’t just about pleasure — it’s the life force that fuels creativity, confidence, and deep fulfillment. It’s the energy that surges when you’re:
- So immersed in a creative project that time vanishes.
- Moved to dance by a song that vibrates in your bones.
- Fully present in a moment that makes you feel absolutely electric.
Society often shrinks the erotic down to just sex — but that limits its power. When we reclaim the erotic as a daily source of energy, we unlock a transformative way of living.
Want to know how to tap into your own erotic energy? Keep scrolling for my top three recommendations — and not one of them involves sex!
3 Ways to Tap Into Your Erotic Energy
1. Sensuality Is Your Superpower
Engage your senses like they’re portals to pleasure:
- Savor the first sip of your morning coffee like it’s a sacred ritual.
- Let a breeze on your skin remind you: you’re here, you’re alive.
- Lose yourself in the colors of a sunset — no phone, just presence.
Try this: For one day, note every sensory moment that sparks joy. That’s the erotic whispering to you.
2. Move Like Pleasure Is Your Birthright
Your body isn’t just a vessel — it’s your ally in ecstasy. Embodied movement invites us to use our awareness and the deeply inherent knowledge of our bodies to move. Think of it as giving your body permission to move without fear or inhibition. You are using embodied movement to reconnect to your body when you:
- Shake your booty and dance with no inhibition to your favorite song.
- Take a walk and let your feet sync with the rhythm of your breath (or the song in your head).
- Stretch like a cat waking up — slowly and intentionally contracting and releasing the muscles down your spine.
Notice how your body feels before, during and in the moments after these embodied movements. Pro tip: Pair embodied movement with a post-activity treat (dark chocolate? A juicy peach?) to double the delight.
3. Pursue Your Passions
Chase what makes you come alive. What sets your soul on fire?
- Painting, writing, building? Do it like no one’s watching.
- Learning a skill? Let curiosity, not perfection, lead.
- Fighting for a cause? Let your passion fuel you.
The key? Total immersion. Get lost in your passion.
That’s the erotic in action.
This Is Your Invitation to More
The next time you’re captivated — by a song, a flavor, a moment — pause. Savor it. Journal it. Capture how it feels to wake up your erotic energy.
And if you’re ready to go deeper? I guide women in reclaiming this energy through workshops and 1:1 coaching. Because you deserve a life that’s not just lived — but felt, fully and fiercely.
Let’s awaken your desire together — click here to explore working with me.
